“Our destiny is largely in our own hands…If we succeed in the race for life, it must be by our own energies and our own exertions.” ~Frederick Douglass
“Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself, you are worthy of this gift and deserve peace, embrace it with all your heart” ~Tracy Diamond
Hi Diamond! You are precious, do you realize that? You are the only YOU! There is no other you out there. You are capable of far more than you know, do you believe it? Your body is very intelligent and capable of miraculous things. You have so much beauty and opportunity within and around you. Life can be as beautiful or as terrible as you make it. As a certified life and mindset coach – I am very passionate about my readers and what I write. This topic is especially meaningful to me as these shifts changed the trajectory of my life. I hope they resonate with you or someone you know – please pass this message on to others. Here are "3 Major Shifts that Can Change the Trajectory of Your Life."
Change the Narrative and Pivot!
What is the narrative you have been telling yourself that is not serving you? Is this narrative holding your back from your desires or achieving your goals? How is this narrative limiting your beliefs about yourself and stopping you from taking actions on things that matter to you? If there was ever a time to shift your narrative and release your negative self-talk and become the powerful you, you are meant to be, it’s NOW! I asked myself these very same powerful questions and gave myself the space to ponder them and answer honestly, by doing that, transformation began.
You deserve the power of telling yourself the truth. Everything starts in the mind. When you change your perception, change your mind, change your limiting beliefs about your life, you can change the signal that is going on within. Is what you think about yourself that is holding you back really true? What is true of this? Do you have proof? Could you prove yourself wrong? Your life is a direct reflection of what voice you listen to. Give yourself permission and make the choice to “change the narrative and pivot!” What shifts will you make that will allow you to do that?
Change Your Thinking – Change Your World
As you are embracing this year, this shift will inspire and enrich your life. Your mind is indispensable and your thoughts start from within. The mind is everything. Your body hears everything your mind says and your life is shaped through your thoughts. It is essential to invest in your overall well-being (the mind is no exception) by becoming more aware of your thoughts. Be intentional about making them productive, positive, and truthful for your success and well-being. Thought is the vital force behind all change! Your life is a reflection of your inner conditions…your mindset and your thoughts. What is your mind “set” on? What is the quality of your thoughts? What is dominating your thoughts? Are your thoughts consistently positive or negative? What’s influencing you? Your thoughts form many of your decisions and the way you live, be conscious and aware of your thoughts and actions. Look inside your own thinking as the place to start making changes. To what extent do you need to change the way you think? How might you change your way of thinking?
Acknowledge that you’re going to work on your mindset. If you are constantly bombarded with thoughts that insist you can’t achieve a certain goal or move forward, you fall into the habit of succumbing to those negative voices. Toxic thoughts produce toxic chemicals, which in turn can make the body sick and affect your health. Counter-mindsets such as: self-doubt, limiting beliefs, false narratives, and other negative thoughts can prevent you from producing the results you want and get in the way of your fulfillment. The quality of your thinking determines the quality of your life. What you focus on expands. Seize the moment and work on your mindset. Take action on your own thoughts, "change your thinking – change your world." Think healthy, happy, successful thoughts. When you think about what you’re thinking about, remember, where the mind goes the man follows. What are you permitting to occupy your mind? What thoughts are holding you back? Are these thoughts helping you or hurting you? “Doubt and Fear” or “Courage and Faith”…you choose!
Forgiveness: Your Health Depends on It
“… unresolved conflict can go deeper than you may realize—it may be affecting your physical health. The good news: Studies have found that the act of forgiveness can reap huge rewards for your health, lowering the risk of heart attack; improving cholesterol levels and sleep; and reducing pain, blood pressure, and levels of anxiety, depression and stress…” ~John Hopkins Medicine
Forgiveness has been shown to elevate mood, enhance optimism, and guard against anger, stress, anxiety, and depression. Letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for improved health and peace of mind. Forgiveness and self-forgiveness does not necessarily come easily; but it is possible, yet, not in your own strength. Draw from your spiritual connection and support systems…“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Colossians 3:13. And “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32. Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting or excusing the harm done to you or making up with the person who caused the harm. There is nothing more effective as forgiveness for healing from within, body, mind, and soul. Forgiveness allows you to move on in life with meaning and purpose. You will be its primary beneficiary.
So when you begin to forgive, you’re releasing resentment, animosity, and all that unforgiveness, and forgiving yourself. “When you forgive, you heal. And when you let go, you grow.” Forgiveness can be challenging, however, it’s often the healthiest path forward and it does not have to include RECONCILIATION!
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Questions to Ponder:
Whom do you need to forgive? What do you need to forgive them for?
What negative thoughts about who you are, are you holding onto?
What positive thoughts about yourself can you focus on?